Choosing Your Wedding Party

The Stress Behind Choosing Your Wedding Party

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Choosing your wedding party is going to be stressful, no doubt. When word goes out about your engagement, many women are going to be curious about whether or not they’ll be asked to be in your wedding. Yes, some women will be bummed if they don’t get that invitation. But in the end, you need to accept a few things. 1. That you can’t make everyone happy. 2. This is your wedding, so don’t focus all of your decisions on others feelings. 3. They will understand your decisions and ultimately care about your happiness on the big day.

Elimination Process

Like my mother, I have inherited the weird passion of making lists. No matter what I do and whenever I’m stressed I make a list to make things seem more clear and within reach. There are a few steps you can take. Step 1 of the elimination process is making a list of all the possible candidates that could be in your wedding party. Now ask yourself how many people you are willing to have in your wedding party.

Lets say that there are 10 people on your list of possible candidates, and you only want 8 people in your wedding. From 1-10, 1 being most important and 10 being least, who do you absolutely need in your wedding. Because you only need 8 people, the last 2 people, rating 9 an 10, are eliminated from your wedding party.

Rating Importance

Rating importance sounds a little cliche, like a popularity contest. But here is a different angle to change your perspective. When you think about importance, think about who has been there for you the most. Who has supported your relationship from day 1. Think about the person who is emotionally supportive and who you’re not afraid to go to for help. Importance doesn’t refer to a popularity contest. Your wedding party should be made up of those who have helped you be the person that you are today. Women who care more about your happiness than the dress they get to wear for being “chosen”.

The Maid of Honor

Choosing the maid of honor is another story. There are so many responsibilities behind the title, so many that another article is going be coming soon titled “Maid of Honor Responsibilities.” But for right now, how should she be chosen?  One way to choose your maid of honor is by looking at your “importance list” from before and choosing who’s on the very top. Another thing to consider is the responsibilities. It’s one thing to have a friend that’s always there for you. But it’s another thing to have a friend that is reliable, trusting and responsible. Being the Maid of Honor is a huge responsibility, for she assists the bride throughout the entirety of the wedding planning process. Not only that, but she needs to be organized, emotionally supportive for the bride, be informative to other bridesmaids and be made available whenever the bride needs her. When choosing your maid of honor, choose the woman that meets all the criteria and who you know will make your wedding planning experience less stressful in the long run.

Choosing your wedding party can be stressful, but in the end you need to accept a few things. 1. That you can’t make everyone happy. 2. This is your wedding, so don’t focus all of your decisions on others feelings. 3. They will understand your decisions and ultimately care about your happiness on the big day.

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