Tips on How to Write Your Own Vows for Your Wedding Day

A wedding is an intimate moment for everyone. It’s a special time of your life when you express your love, give promises, and are ready to be committed to each other until death parts you. Writing your vows is an excellent opportunity to remind each other how deeply you are in love, and share some bits of your story with the guests. Below, we’ll explore some simple yet effective tips on how to beautifully compose your wedding vows and melt the heart of your significant other. Oh, and make your guests look for handkerchiefs as well.

Structure Your Text

The cornerstones of a memorable wedding vow are the following: speaking from the heart, infusing your true feelings into the text, and being consistent. If you’re a perfectionist (after all, everything at your wedding must be perfect, right?), and don’t feel like consistency is your forte, try services like to ease your worries. The editors have vast experience in all sorts of writing, so they’ll quickly polish up your vow (preliminary having received your yes to all the corrections).

When it comes to structure, we hope, our examples below will guide you along the way:

  • Specify who the person next to you is. Is it your lover, BFF, or the whole world in one person?
  • State what you love about him/her. What made you say yes? When was the first time you said I love you? What about this individual has led you to start a relationship? What is it that you miss about him/her when your loved one is far away?
  • Include a story to make your vow juicy. Use an anecdote or a story from your relationship history to add life to your mini-speech.
  • Share your promises. Give a vow to stick to all of your promises (“I will be there in sick and in health,” etc.). Include romantic, fun, and extra-serious ways you are going to express your love, support, and care in the future. Use word combinations like “Together, we will…,” “With you…,” “I promise to…,” etc.
  • Until death parts us. As you talk about fun moments, make sure to remind your SO that you are there in joy and sorrow.
  • Conclude your vow with hope for the future. Share your plans, aspirations, and goals for your shared future. What is it that you are looking forward to in this romantic journey? Make those sweet promises at the end of the vow.

Pick Stories

You’re welcome to include some inside jokes in your text; however, we would strongly recommend keeping that for your private conversations. Instead, choose a couple of stories that best show your partnership and special connection. It’s better to tell stories that will resonate with the audience. Thus, you will add personality to your speech and help guests get a better idea of how deep your love is.

Use Keepsakes to Get Inspired

There’s nothing wrong if you lack inspiration even for such a special thing as your vow. After all, writing a wedding vow is the same as working on a narrative essay, swot analysis paper, or book review. That is why looking for inspiration in the gifts, cards, letters, toys, and other things you’ve once exchanged will help you compose the finest pledge for your spouse-to-be. You are sure to remember all those special events, moments, days, and activities that in turn will serve as inspiration for your words of love.

Write, Take a Break, Write, Repeat

If you’re not a college student busy with regular essays, writing a wedding vow in one sitting may be a challenge for you. Take breaks! Write until you feel like the muse is gone. Then go for a walk, have a coffee, or doze off. You will come back to your writing with a reloaded mind and full of inspiration. Just like you did in school. If possible, come back in a day or two. Write for some time. Stop. Come back again.

Check out Vows Examples

Before you craft your own vow, browse examples written by other people in love. You will research a lot of styles of vows (traditional, modern, etc.) and decide which you prefer. Do you prefer to be emotional or funny? Or maybe you choose between secular and religious vows? Are you more into prose or poetry?

Surfing pieces written by other lovers doesn’t mean you’re copying them. It’s an excellent opportunity to combat the so-called writer’s block and start writing.

Recite a Poem

If you like poetry, and know some of the lines that best describe your affection, include them in your wedding vow. One of the best examples of such poetry is “Unending Love” by Rabindranath Tagore:

“I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times…

In life after life, in age after age, forever.

My spellbound heart has made and remade the necklace of songs,

That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms,

In life after life, in age after age, forever…”

If there are special memories associated with a particular poetry, let them come alive by making the work of literature part of your story.

Don’t Promise Perfection

After all, perfect does not exist. You’ve known each other for a long period of time, and you know very well that life happens. Instead of promising your life will be like a paradise, make sure to focus on attainable things like commitments, devotion, patience, and kindness.

Keep It Short

Well, it’s up to you to decide how long you can talk. However, listening to a 30-minute wedding vow can be quite a challenge. In general, 30 seconds to 3 minutes will be enough to deliver a vow.

Finally, never wait until the last minute to write a vow! You’re going to speak in front of your priest, rabbi, pastor, or officiant, as well as the dearest people in your life. You don’t want to be confused only because you waited too long to compose your vow. The last thing you want is to disappoint your future spouse. So, start as early as you can to have time to think, write, revise, and run lines in the mirror.

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