Whether we know it or not, what we all desire and crave in life is stability. Think about it: We want love, food on the table, a job with benefits, a nice house and a family to share it all with. Its like an organized mental list that we all wish to check off one day. I know that I’ve mentioned this is another article, but it all refers to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. There are 5 basic levels to his theory: Physiological Needs (eat, sleep, air, shelter, etc), Safety, Love, Self Esteem & Self Actualization (fulfillment). These needs are the basic tools in life that we all wish to check off of our mental check list. But after everything has been checked off, whats next?
One of my favorite wedding quotes is from the movie “Bride Wars”. Said by Marion St Claire, “A wedding marks the first day of the rest of your life. You have been dead until now. Were you aware of that?” In a sense, she’s right. When you get married, your life opens up a new chapter and your story takes a turn for the better or worse. So which will it be? Getting married almost feels like your coming out of a dream, and for the first time in your life your seeing with open eyes. Why is this? It’s because you’ve more than likely reached the top of the pyramid in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
For a little while everything is going to be amazing. You’ll have everything you’ve every wanted, and life will be stable. But were all human, and sooner or later you’re going to want more in life. Is this selfish? No, it’s not. It’s actually normal to feel this way, especially if you’ve reached the top of the pyramid. Stereotypical, if you were older in age people would call this a midlife crisis. But to be honest, you don’t have to be middle aged to feel this way. People have this experience when nearing the end of high school, when staying at a job to long, when talking to friends or even when thinking in-depth about life. It can happen at any age, at anytime time. What matters is, where will you let this thought process lead you?
We all want stability in life. We want a stable job, stable cash flow, a stable routine and well, stability in general. But eventually, stability turns into boredom, leading to a yearning for more in life. Your life is like a priceless artifact, so precious in value that it’s price cannot be determined. But price varies within the history behind each object. You have the power to decide: Will your life be consistent with the same routine and safe outline, or will you guide the course with change and memorable value?
There’s a reason why you married the man that you did. Is it because he motivates you to be better? Because he encourages you to do more and embrace the person that he fell in love with? Right now, life is different. You have a husband at your side that will be there for you for better or worse. If you need a change in your life, you need to take a risk and get out of your everyday routine. Don’t look at life as stability, look at it as an adventure. Love is an amazing motivator. Take advantage of the opportunity and live life lovingly and with the best intentions at heart.
“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.”
The possibility of doing more is easier than one may think. Helping a stranger and not thinking twice about it, taking a walk around town rather than driving through it. Saying hello to the person standing in line next to you or doing what makes you happy rather than fearing the outcomes that”could be”. It’s the little things that create bigger outcomes. The random acts of kindness that trigger the ripple effect.
My tip of advice to you is don’t let the little things in life set you back. Don’t let stability rule your happiness. Allow love to motivate you and drive you to bigger things and remember that it only takes a small risk to differentiate the value of your life from affordable to priceless.
Thanks for reading, and remember that love is just one step of the pyramid, and grows with the risks that you take in life.